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Is it reasonable to stop contact - Safeguarding Issue
« on: October 13, 2015, 09:30:12 PM »
Hi all,

My partner is planning on stopping her son staying over with his dad.  For the last eight years he has had a two or three bed flat and has been able to provide a proper bedroom and a secure property for the child. 

For whatever reason, he wont tell us, he is downsizing to a bedsit with a communal bathroom.  This is is a less than great area of town with a reputation for drugs.

Is it reasonable to for a ten, nearly eleven year old to share a single room using a communcal bathroom.  We are really worried about this, especially the communal bathroom.  We dont want to be wise after the event if he finds a needle in the bathroom and ends up with god knows what.

Thoughts appreciated...

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Re: Is it reasonable to stop contact - Safeguarding Issue
« Reply #1 on: October 14, 2015, 04:41:53 PM »
Does the dad know the others who are sharing the bathroom. It's not ideal but if the others also have children staying, or he knows them then it's slightly less unnerving. 

It's sad to stop the overnight contact, but unless dad can guarantee he would accompany the child to the bathroom I guess I'd be concerned too.  Will the boy still have daily contact?

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Re: Is it reasonable to stop contact - Safeguarding Issue
« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2017, 10:14:14 PM »
Once a child turns 9 years-old it isn't deemed inappropriate to share a room with them ov bright. Stopping overnight contact on these grounds, until something more appropriate is found would be considered reasonable and in the best interests of the child.


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