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Anyone in Hampshire?
« on: November 03, 2012, 05:35:46 PM »
Hi,

I'll keep this fairly brief as I have only just registered to post on here (have been reading for a little while but trying to pluck up the courage to post).  I wondered if there was anyone on here with preschool/toddler age children in Hampshire (I am in Southampton)?  I have been a single mum for just over 6 months so still adjusting to the new situation and was just looking for anyone who has child/ren a similar age to mine.  I have one little girl who turned 2 in August.

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #1 on: November 03, 2012, 06:36:47 PM »
Hello Daisymay

Till someone more local wanders by you'll have to make do with a wave from Twickenham.

Make yourself comfy, settle down in a comfy chair and take a a gander round the forum.

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #2 on: November 03, 2012, 06:43:41 PM »
Hi WT4,

Thanks for your reply, i'm looking around and it seems very friendly.  I've used forums before, before I became a mum, and it's always hard to get started and wait for the first response so thank you!

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ps Did you read the bit about where I mentioned I have a 2 year old?!  It's rare to have much time to make myself comfy to do anything!!  ;)  But I am slowly looking around, thanks.

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #3 on: November 03, 2012, 06:48:27 PM »
Oh yes, everyone on here has at least one little darling (obviously) - most are Resident Parents (I think)

My youngest is 7

BTW: Do you have a tent?
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #4 on: November 03, 2012, 09:11:41 PM »
How many children do you have? 

I think I do have a tent in the loft somewhere.  I'm sure my ex and I bought one as we were planning to go when our daughter was a little older (we both camped when we were little and have great memories of family camping trips).  Not sure if I could find it or if I would be brave enough to take her now though!

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #5 on: November 03, 2012, 09:30:03 PM »
There are 4 little darlings in my world ... although one of them lives with their mother, so I get to be a full-on full-time Dad and I get to make the cross country access run every other weekend and for the school holidays.

There is no age limit for camping, your little one will love it ... and group camping is so much more fun (for everyone) than family camping.

Bravery is not required ... unless you are terrified at the prospect of making friends, in which case open the wine before pitching the tent :)
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« Reply #6 on: November 03, 2012, 09:49:27 PM »
 Wow 4, they must keep you busy! I always wanted a big family but it didn't work out that way. I'm not sure whether I am brave enough to camp with people I don't know :-\ I'm still adjusting to being a single parent and not sure how well I could cope with going camping.  Its all a bit scary territory for me.  Although I guess it would be much more fun in a group.  The other issue I have with camping is the sleeping part of it.  Unfortunately I have a back problem and recently needed surgery but it hasn't been as successful as hoped and I still have pain which is needing cortisone injections now! It never rains but it pours eh?! Any tips on doing anything better than just surviving life as a single parent?

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #7 on: November 03, 2012, 10:03:44 PM »
Wow 4, they must keep you busy! I always wanted a big family but it didn't work out that way. I'm not sure whether I am brave enough to camp with people I don't know :-\ I'm still adjusting to being a single parent and not sure how well I could cope with going camping.  Its all a bit scary territory for me.  Although I guess it would be much more fun in a group.  The other issue I have with camping is the sleeping part of it.  Unfortunately I have a back problem and recently needed surgery but it hasn't been as successful as hoped and I still have pain which is needing cortisone injections now! It never rains but it pours eh?!

I have a back/neck prob too atm - fortunately it responds better to a harder mattress.  I know all these things are not the same, but I'm not a doc and you should probably consult a pro if you're in any doubt about taking part in any activity.  As for the rest, scary people you don't know etc.  I have this to say: pah, stuff'n'nonsense

Any tips on doing anything better than just surviving life as a single parent?

Surviving is a damn good start, but I know what you mean.  Be good to yourself - you're not much use to your little one if you're at the limit all the time.

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #8 on: November 03, 2012, 10:31:58 PM »
Hi Daisymay,

my tip is rediscover yourself now you are a single parent - be who you want to be x
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #9 on: November 04, 2012, 10:06:52 PM »
WT4 - I just spent 10 mins typing a reply and then hit something on my keyboard and lost it! Arrggh!!!  :-X  Anyway I'm not going to go over that all again, suffice to say it was a thank you for the kind words, a bit woe is me about my back and that I can't do anything (within reasonable limits of course) to cause any further damage, just increase the pain and the frequency of the flare ups.  I try to strike a balance as I want a normal life but am aware if I do cause a flare up then I am definitely a worse parent for it cos I become irritable and short tempered.
As for camping in a group, I am just not a very brave person but I do try to push the boundaries of my comfort zone especially if it means my daughter benefits/doesnt miss out. 
My priority (as with all parents esp single parents I guess) is her and that the recent change in our situation has as little effect on her as possible.

Cushion Plumper - thank you, I don't really know how to rediscover myself though, I'm not very good with stuff like that.  I guess actually figuring out who I want to be would be a good start!!

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #10 on: November 04, 2012, 11:13:36 PM »
Hi, and welcome...

My priority (as with all parents esp single parents I guess) is her and that the recent change in our situation has as little effect on her as possible.


A bit of shameless self promotion here but have you read this thread?  http://www.singlewithkids.co.uk/forum/general-chat-trivia/what-our-children-think-of-swk/
...."she said she physically can't picture what our lives would have been like without SWK"

I'm one of those parents who'd never go back, I - WE - are much happier now than before we separated, in fact there's a long thread on that somewhere too.

Six months is early days, it took me a good year and a bit to find my feet, but once I spotted the light at the end of the tunnel, it just got brighter from there.

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #11 on: November 04, 2012, 11:41:17 PM »
[...] aware if I do cause a flare up then I am definitely a worse parent for it cos I become irritable and short tempered.
Don't we all suffer from that particular failing from time to time.

As for camping in a group, I am just not a very brave person but I do try to push the boundaries of my comfort zone especially if it means my daughter benefits/doesnt miss out.
Bravery really not required - so long as there's no danger of hurting your back.

My priority (as with all parents esp single parents I guess) is her and that the recent change in our situation has as little effect on her as possible.

That was a big (very big) issue for me - for months (years) my focus was on "normal" - which doesn't mean "the same".
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #12 on: November 05, 2012, 03:20:36 PM »
Hello DaisyMay,

I think we have met on another forum :) Glad you have taken the plunge and joined here!

About your previous post though - you can't say you are not a brave person - you are - brave, strong and determined would easily describe you.

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« Reply #13 on: November 06, 2012, 09:38:07 PM »
Hi Silky - I havent had much time to navigate the forum too much yet, so difficult finding time (and still being able to keep my eyes open!) to do much other than fight fires with the housework when my princess is asleep/at nursery.  In fact I am meant to be sorting out my banking and budget as we speak....  ::)  But I do intend to have a proper look around in the near future.  It's actually coming up to 7 months now (he left me on Friday 13th April - i have yet to decide whether it was unlucky or not!  ;) ) but at the moment I am going through a bit of a wobble and feel a little bit back to square one.  Lots has happened I dont have the time to go into now but it's very hard.  Thank you for the reassurance it does get better - I do truly believe we will come out the other side ok (and i think ultimately we will all be happier in the end) but in the meantime will worry and stress my way through the tunnel....  ::)

WT4 - I wish my 'time to time' wasnt so frequent though....  :-[ As for bravery, yes it is needed for me, but i will pluck up the courage as I am needing to do things just to prove I can.  I realise it is me and my beautiful girl now so have to get on with it.  Slowly but surely I am trying to push my own boundaries to boost my confidence and so yesterday I went to London (about an hour 20 mins on train) with my daughter on our own.  Long story but I won tickets to see Robbie Williams switch on the Oxford St lights but couldnt, for love nor money, get anyone to go with me.  I woke up yesterday feeling sorry for myself that yet again something had gone wrong and I wasnt able to go and then decided 's** it' I would go on my own with my little one.  It was an incredibly long, tiring, painful and (a little) stressful, day but in the end totally worth it.  I saw the gorgeous Robbie (no small part the motivation I needed to get off my backside and just go  ;D ) and got home feeling I had achieved something on my own.... small steps and we will walk (or maybe stumble!) that marathon.  Who knows, maybe I will get to a SWK get together before the end of the century  ;)

Dora - hi!!!!  :-* Yes we most definitely have met on another forum and I am very thankful to you for all your help and advice when I plunged into the scary world of single parentdom.  I also appreciate you pointing me in the direction of SWK as I know already it is going to be so helpful to me  :)  And finally thank you for the lovely words, I cant say I am convinced on the first 2 but yes determined (or perhaps stubborn as a mule would be better!  ;) ) but then havent we had to be?!  :-* xxx

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« Reply #14 on: November 07, 2012, 12:04:39 AM »
hi im helen i have a 13 year old but i am still happyto catch up even though hes a lot older, i am very local to you probably 20 mintes from you ,im happy to meet up for a cuppa and a chat  joining swk is best thing i did 3 years ago ,i turned up to my first new forest camp with very lil a tiny tent and basics like a wobbling jelly thanks to many people u all know who u are. ive gained a lot of friends and both m and i are a lot happy and luv summer and camping, its hard work but soo worth it bring basics wine and choc and everything fits in to place. i havevarioud medical problems causing chronic pain and exhaustion but do get through a camping trip with a few helping hands ;D we did norfolk this year and have now mastered wickstead to ,hope to hear from u x

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« Reply #15 on: November 07, 2012, 12:14:18 AM »
blue sky will drop in from time to time and say hi, dont think shes to far away either  ;) lol come on blue sky dont let me down he he x

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« Reply #16 on: November 08, 2012, 09:10:38 AM »
  Hi Helen - Thanks for your reply. It would be nice to meet up. I suspect we will have very different recent experiences of single parenthood with a 2 year old daughter and a 13 year old son (although actually maybe puberty isn't that far removed from the terrible twos!!). I am not currently a full member of swk, just registered to post on the forum, but it is becoming more evident the benefits of membership (not least the private message function). I was hoping to leave it until I could afford to pay a year up front but it looks as though it would definitely be worth paying monthly until I can do that as its obviously cheaper in the short term which is what I need.

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Ps I am guessing then there isn't anyone local with similar age children? That's a shame as I was really hoping to meet someone who could help me out with toddler phases/behaviours as a single parent. I have friends with children the same age but its just not the same when you are on your own is it?! Some are incredibly supportive but when push comes to shove they can't be in a position necessarily to be there every time you need them (and sometimes you just don't want to ask) when they have partners (I'm thinking weekends as this is when I most feel it, when everyone is doing family things :-\ )

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« Reply #17 on: November 08, 2012, 10:42:12 AM »
blue sky dont let me down he he x

As if I would!

Welcome Daisy May - I am in Ringwood so not too far away.    My daughter is 8 (and a half) now, but I started my single parent-dom when she was two and a bit too.  Even now, I remember the sheer exhaustion of doing it all alone.  In my case, with no pre-school/nursery place for a year and no friends with kids of the same age  :(

There only seems to be a few of us posting on the forum at this end of the country.  But there is lots and lots of virtual support and advice on here - and no doubt some views you may not want to hear - just post and ask.  Parents who will still be going through the terrible twos (or rather their children ;D are), and parents who have emerged triumphant the other side!

SWK has been a huge support for me.  Allowing me to plan and feel I have some life and independence with the holidays/meets - I have met some lovely people.  And my daughter loves it too.  My favorite quote from her is "Mummy, can we only go on holiday with SWK.  Not with normal people".  ;)

Do you drive? Perhaps all three of us could meet up.........although I can only find Eastleigh!

Well done for getting out there and going to London - hope Robbie appreciated it.


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« Reply #18 on: November 08, 2012, 10:52:32 PM »
Hi Daisymay, You've prompted me to sign up. I'm technically in Wiltshire but just up the A36 from you. My 2 year old just turned 3! Have 2 older boys as well. I'm in the early stages of singledom too having only just moved into our own place last week. Happy to chat on here or meet up.
Like you I have found that planning an outing and just taking the plunge seems to work and leaves me with a sense of achievement and a newfound sense of competence. Just go for it.

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« Reply #19 on: November 09, 2012, 03:33:18 AM »
hi ive bin single for most of 13 years it does get a bit easyier and do enjoy it most of time , yes happy to meet up with all always happy to give a lift , eastleigh is easy to get to i know it well , yes 13 year old seem to have moments of hints of terrible twos challanging to say least , yes if u become full member we can swap contact details then,hello blue sky thank u  ;D ,my reading and writing is not all that good so is normally short

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« Reply #20 on: November 09, 2012, 03:40:21 AM »
hi mummyfi welcome may be we can all meet up , my parents live just off a36 just before wilts :) well done for taking the plunge

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« Reply #21 on: November 23, 2012, 10:53:37 PM »
Hi Daisy,
Well I'm new to this forum and I'm 2 years down the line with my 8 year old daughter. I live near Hedge End so maybe we should all meet up one weekend. Someone needs to organise a social I think, lol.

I've even booked a holiday for next Easter with the site so I'll be crossing my fingers on that one too.

So welcome to the forum, everyone seems fairly friendly here.

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« Reply #22 on: November 23, 2012, 11:47:34 PM »
Set a date, we'll be there. You're right, just been noticing lots of meets up North being advertised- we should get sorted out down here.

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« Reply #23 on: November 24, 2012, 09:20:45 PM »
Hi
I dont live anywhere near you, but I do have a 2year old! I left my husband a year ago, baby had just turned 1!! It was'nt easy and it was only in May this year that I finally gave up on the idea of us repairing our marriage and getting back together!! I aslo have a 4yr old and 7yr old!!
I remember how hard it was when my friends were moaning about the terrible two's and gritting my teeth to stop myself from saying atleast you have somebody else to support you/take part of it, never mind somebody to talk to when they've gone to bed!!
I can honestly say that after realising that I had no choice and just had to get on with it, it got easier!!
I'm lucky enough (sarcasm there) to get my family telling me everything I need to do aswell, with which I either give sarcasm or tell them that I'm not and will do what I think is necessary!!
It's just a phase, and on my 3rd time round I know that they grow out of it!! :)
It is difficult trying to do things on your own, for me it's harder because I have to do what will suit and is safe for all 3! But you just have to learn and adapt.
It's scary when you first start doing things, especially meeting with people that you dont know.  I was talking to a friend the other day about my fear of people coming to or in my house.  She said that I need to get over it, as nothing in my house will get done (plumbing, etc).  For the min, I cant let that happen, and will just have to find ways round it!! 
As for finding  yourself.  You will see alot of threads on here about people realising that they had lost themselves (including me) and what a great thing it was to find it all again!!
Try looking for different things that you and your toddler can go to, to try and make new friends, they dont necessarily have to be single.  Some of my friends have been single parents at some point, but are married now.  But they have been some of the most understanding and supportive (not including those on here! ;D).
I can echo friends being busy/not joining in on things.  I try to make plans in advance, as much as poss, but when plans change and your left for yet another night/day on your own, but I'm trying to broaden my circle of friends!!
The saying 'life goes on' could never be any more appropriate.  Changing and adapting makes you a stronger person, certainly has me anyway! Altho I still have my off days, which throws people because they're used to seeing me be so strong!!But I'm only human!! :-\
Well good luck in your new journey!! :)

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #24 on: November 26, 2012, 08:40:15 PM »
Well if we have a couple of eight year old girls and a couple of 2-3 year olds, what about soft play.  My giant eight year old can just about get under the height restriction  ::)

Dont know anywhere in Southampton - any suggestions? 

Otherwise, there is Tower Park in Poole (Lemur Landings); or a small one in Christchurch (Serendipity Sams).

Let me know what you all think and we could pick a Saturday in January and put a thread on the meet ups board............

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« Reply #25 on: November 26, 2012, 09:01:52 PM »
Sounding good. Happy to do either Christchurch or Poole. Must be one in Southampton but don't know where. Can't do the 12th but pick another and let's get it sorted.

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« Reply #26 on: November 26, 2012, 11:03:49 PM »
19th or 26th is good for me - anyone else?

Poole is very good for me!  But happy (willing  :o) to venture to the wilds of Southampton if anyone has a suggestion................

We have previously done a number of meets this end of the county/country - with kids and withou -  but with fairly scattered people - Bere Regis/Yeovil/Poole.  But it would certainly be nice to meet some new SWKers.
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« Reply #27 on: November 29, 2012, 12:07:39 AM »
Playshack in Hedge End seems like a good venue, it's 3 minutes from junction 7 of the M27, that seems fairly easy to,get to. What do you all think
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #28 on: November 29, 2012, 10:37:00 AM »
I dont mind giving it a go.  Take it you have been there?

We have Brownie outing now on the 19th,  :-\ so it would need to be Saturday 26th or Sunday 27th January for us.

Let me know which and if you are both happy with date and place, I will post a thread and see if anyone else is able to come along. (Hopefully, it will suit Daisymay too.)  :)
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #29 on: November 30, 2012, 11:23:46 PM »
Either day is fine, although I do have ballet until 11.45

Play Shack is:
28 Solent Trading Estate, Shamblehurst Lane South, Southampton
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It's a typical run round a huge climbing frame and a toddlers version too. Costa coffee and kids meals if you want to eat. It won't Michelin stars but kids seem to like it there.

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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #30 on: December 01, 2012, 07:01:03 AM »
Hello everyone,

Wow look what I started!  :)

I'm so sorry I kick started this and then just gone awol, things have been incredibly difficult here over recent weeks and I have found myself swamped with just keeping everyday life ticking over (aside from one knackering but fab weekend away with just me and my little girl).

Ok so it looks like we are meeting in January? I am in bed at the mo (woke at 3.30am and can't get back to sleep, its now 6!   :-X ) but I will double check if I can do the weekend currently being mentioned, 26/27th I think?  I just need to make sure I am not working (or that there's not a home game - football!  ;D ).  I haven't been to play shack before but I know people who have and its meant to be good.  Another option is Frankies Fun Factory in Romsey.  Its a good all rounder as well (not sure how it compares to the size of Play Shack but its not as small as the Wacky Warehouse in Ower or as big the one whose name escapes me in Eastleigh which is meant to be huge but not so good for littlies), although the toddlers do need some help with the bigger section (there is a toddler bit too but my daughter likes to venture further!) but if there were a couple of willing 8 year olds....!  It has a good selection of food, meals are fairly varied and there's plenty snack wise, although its an in house thing so shouldn't imagine the coffee rivals Costa (I don't drink it so wouldn't know).  I mention Frankies as I know they do a book of 10 entries which works out quite a bit cheaper than the per child entry price so that might be worth considering (I could look into it if you all think it would be an option) but if everyone is happy to stick with Play Shack that's fine with me.

I'll post again when its warm enough to get out of bed (!!) and I can sit at my laptop (it gets a bit awkward on my mobile).

Thank you to everyone who has picked up the ball and kept it rolling, again I'm very sorry I haven't been around recently.  I'm so pleased I found this site and am really looking forward to making friends, I really need them right now! (I have some wonderful friends who are very supportive but sometimes you just need someone who really gets it don't you?)

Take care all,
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #31 on: December 01, 2012, 08:29:58 PM »
DaisyMay,
All sounds great to me. I'm new to the site and 2 years into being a single dad, there are times when it's a blast and times you feel so low. So having a good support network around you is so important.

Anyway, you have started something now, I'll leave you to run with it, I'll be there on either of days, just let me know the day and the time.

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« Reply #32 on: December 02, 2012, 12:12:20 AM »
Glad you're back Daisymay. Sat 26th good with me. We have handbell ringing until 11am so maybe lunch/ early afternoon best. I know Frankie's at Romsey is good. Wacky warehouse is no good for the older ones, once round and they're bored. Happy to try somewhere new.

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« Reply #33 on: December 05, 2012, 05:27:38 PM »
Hi again.

Sorry another quick one (i seem to be rushing from one thing to the other at the mo).  Does anyone use Groupon?  If so there is an offer on there for 10 passes for Play Shack, but I think just the one at  Ocean Village (never been there but it says it has just been refurbished) for £14 which is obviously really good value.  I havent had a good look at the t and c's so it may not be suitable but i think there is still 3 days left to buy so i should have time to look again tomorrow.  Just another thought to add to the pot.  I think Saturday 26th is ok for us, will double check that too!!

I will definitely post more next time.  Sorry!!

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ps MummyFi, I agree with Wacky Warehouse not being good for the older ones so definitely think we should go with Frankies or Play Shack

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« Reply #34 on: December 30, 2012, 11:27:07 PM »
AAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!

Just spent an hour and a half (staying up when I would normally have collapsed in bed not long after my daughter settles) posting a decent reply to everyone who has been kind enough to reply to me and I pressed, I don't know what, and lost the lot!!  :-X :-X :-X :-X

Ok so I'm really sorry, i don't have the time or the energy to post it all again so quickly -

Bluesky, I think you have started another thread about meeting up, I haven't looked but you mention it here so thank you and I will search for it.  It must have been incredibly tough for you with no child care/nursery.  My husband left in April and my daughter started nursery 2 mornings a week in September and it was a long tiring 5 months.  I don't always get the time to myself as I work shifts so do sometimes work (or sleep off a night shift) while she is there but when I'm not it is so very helpful having that time to catch up on, usually housework, shopping, banking etc.... (it's a very good nursery so I can relax she is very well looked after, which makes me feel a little less guilty about sending her so young)

Max, I am keen to meet others with kids same/similar age to my daughter but it is also nice to have a mix of ages.  I have nieces and a nephew aged 5, 6 and 8 and they are brilliant with my daughter, love occupying her and playing with her.  Btw, what does your daughter do til 1145 while you are at ballet?!  ;)

Mummyfi - I'm glad I prompted you to sign up, it has helped me already and I am sure it has done the same for you.  I look forward to meeting you and your little one (boy or girl btw?).  Wiltshires not so far away, Salisbury I think you are?  I am fairly happy to drive anywhere that can be reached easily for a day.

Georgie - thank you for taking the time to post.  How on earth did/do you cope with 3?!  I struggle with 1!  I am incredibly lucky with my mum though, she is very supportive and, although I am sure there are times (in fact I know there are) when she doesn't agree with something I say or do, she would never criticize or undermine me.  Ikwym about people expecting you to be strong.  I also have found that, although people are great, as time goes by and it doesn't necessarily get easier for you, it slips away from other people's conscious that you are alone behind those closed doors as the split hasn't just happened anymore...  :-\

Finally sorry for not being around for ages again.  I won't go into it all here but probably post a separate thread to get it all off my chest. 

I hope to be able to meet some new friends, for me and my daughter, very soon.

I also hope everyone survived Xmas and even managed to enjoy it a bit for their little ones (it was hard but we got through it).

Daisymay
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Re: Anyone in Hampshire?
« Reply #35 on: January 25, 2013, 10:15:41 AM »
Hi Daisymay

As haven't heard from you, thought I would link the meet up here:-

http://www.singlewithkids.co.uk/forum/day-trips-meets-68/0126-soft-play-at-hedge-end-1-00pm-onwards/msg286084/?boardseen#new

Hope you can make it........ :)
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« Reply #36 on: February 08, 2013, 12:43:34 PM »
Hi Daisymay

Just wondering if you have managed to find this thread?  We have settled on Friday 22 February at 1100 at Tower Park.

http://www.singlewithkids.co.uk/forum/day-trips-meets-68/0200-february-soft-play-lemur-landings-poole/msg286519/?boardseen#new


Hopefully, you can join us  :)
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« Reply #37 on: April 04, 2013, 11:07:56 PM »
Hello to all of you in the South!

 I have just stumbled upon this thread and live in Southampton with my 13 year old daughter.  If any meet ups get planned in or around this area would love to join you all - with or without her ladyship although I'm sure we could put her to good use running around after little ones if she did join us!
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« Reply #38 on: August 01, 2013, 09:56:13 PM »
Hello, I will be moving to Southampton next week with my daughter. She is 3.4 years old...would love to meet up with other single mums x

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Hello, I was recommend this site recently so have been having a look around this evening.

I'm in Winchester, Hampshire and have 3 children aged 9, 6 and 4.

Just thought I'd say hello :)

 

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