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From Swanage
« on: May 27, 2011, 04:56:37 PM »
Just another 'hi, I'm new' post!

I'm Becky, aged 33, living in Swanage. I have a daughter, aged 3.

My husband left a year ago, we're doing pretty well on our own although it took a while to get used to it! I've just returned from a holiday with my daughter. This was a big deal to me, as I've only ever been away on holiday with my husband present. Also, we have no transport so I didn't want to go too far. So (don't laugh!) I took her to Rockley Park in Poole! We came back this morning, and d'you know what, we enjoyed every minute of it!

Being away on our own for a week has made me feel quite positive about life and the future. I've 'lurked' around this forum for a while, but never taken the plunge and posted. :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2011, 05:29:44 PM »
Welcome, I'm same age but with a 4 year old, alas we're nowhere near you.  There is usually a Swanage trip each year, it's supposed to be lovely down there, you lucky thing, every day could be like a holiday  :)
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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2011, 05:38:21 PM »
Thanks Mia!

Yes, we're really lucky. Some people who live here never visit the beach, which I don't understand! My daughter and I love it.

I'll keep my eye out for details of the Swanage trip - perhaps I'd be able to meet some other mums and dads, that would be lovely. :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2011, 06:57:37 PM »
Hi Becky and welcome to SWK  :)

Good for you taking that big first step and glad you are feeling positive.  I certainly cant laugh - I live in Ringwood and went camping in the New Forest (and going again this year....  ;D

There are a few of us dotted about Hants/Dorset who are managing to get together for various things like soft play and picnics - and even a couple of nights out.  If you were interested in meeting up; would Poole be a possibility for you?  Andrea is in Bere Regis and has a little girl close to your daughter's age.  Just let us know........

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2011, 09:59:36 PM »
Thank Blue Sky! We've got such lovely countryside / coast around here, we're lucky.

I'd love to meet up if you don't mind me tagging along sometime. I can't drive at present (will hopefully take my test later this year), but Poole is easy to reach by bus, so that sounds good. :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2011, 10:24:36 PM »
Hello! I have just been looking at campsites in Swanage, (a bit keen seeing as I haven't done our first trip yet!). Is it true that you sometimes see dolphins in Swanage?

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2011, 10:37:11 PM »
Hi Becky

I am off to Hop Farm tomorrow (panic attacks due to driving miles but I gotta do it :() but will post next week and see if we can sort out a date.  Have a good weekend.

Cheesecake - not heard that but if you can, will def be there myself!  Dolphins are fab.  Lived in Scotland for years and meant to go dolphin watching but you know how it is, never quite got there.  Are you booked for New Forest?

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #7 on: May 28, 2011, 03:29:04 PM »
Cheesecake - yes, we do! If you're on Facebook, have a search for the Durlston Country Park page. There are some photos on there.

Blue Sky - that sounds lovely, thank you. Hope you're having a good weekend, and the driving wasn't too bad!

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #8 on: May 28, 2011, 04:23:13 PM »
Hi there!

I'm Helen and I've just joined SWK. I have 2 daughters age 5 and 8.

I live in Poole so just down the road really - I thin there is some talk of a night out sans kids which sounds good!

Helen :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #9 on: May 28, 2011, 04:24:46 PM »
Ooh wow fab thanks...I shall definitely have to sort out a camping trip down that way this summer :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #10 on: May 28, 2011, 07:26:27 PM »
Hi Helen! It seems like there are loads of people from this area on SWK - brill.

A night out without kids sounds heavenly, but unfortunately is not an option for me at the mo. :( I live in hope that her daddy will eventually come good on his promise of spending time with her...

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #11 on: May 29, 2011, 11:53:00 AM »
Hi Becky

I'm Andrea and I live in Bere Regis - we come down to Swanage a lot to the beach.  I have a boy of 6 and a girl of 3.

I am basically on my own with no family near - and their dad is 300 miles away - although he has got them this week and will have them again for a week in August.

Would love to meet up - so next time I am planning a beach day I will post on here.

Andrea

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #12 on: May 29, 2011, 04:05:23 PM »
Hi Becky

I'm Andrea and I live in Bere Regis - we come down to Swanage a lot to the beach.  I have a boy of 6 and a girl of 3.

I am basically on my own with no family near - and their dad is 300 miles away - although he has got them this week and will have them again for a week in August.

Would love to meet up - so next time I am planning a beach day I will post on here.

Andrea

That sounds great! Swanage beach is within walking distance for me, so I can easily meet you there if you like.

My daughter's dad has moved back to Wales, so he hardly ever sees her. If you don't mind me asking, how often does your children's dad see them, phone them, etc.? Do they find it easy to pick up where they left off when they see him, or is it nervewracking for them? Tell me to mind my own business if you'd rather not say, I won't take offence.  :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #13 on: May 29, 2011, 04:30:44 PM »
Hi Becky

I don't mind you aksing at all.  He phones at least 3 times a week and more if Tom is not being very good at school - to try and support me and to talk to Tom (does not always work however).  He used to see them once a month - he would come down and see them from Sat am to Sun pm.  He lives in the next town to where my family are (in West Yorkshire) so he sees them if I take them North as well.  I think this year he has been down 3 times so far.

The kids seem to cope really well - although Lucy says she misses her dad a lot at the moment and wishes we all lived together - which is strange really as she was only 1 when we split up so will not remember when we all lived together.  Tom is fine with it but always gets upset when it is time to say bye to his dad.  He normally cries which then sets me off. 

I hate the fact that we could not get our marriage to work but know that the children are better being brought up in a house with no shouting and arguing going on all the time which is what it was like.  Plus I am better on my own rather than with mr angry who would move out at the slightest of hiccups, and then play the marter that he was missing out!!!!!

Hope this helps and hope to meet up soon.
Andrea

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #14 on: May 29, 2011, 06:56:27 PM »
That does help, thank you. When my husband left last June, he promised he'd see my daughter regularly, but he never has. Until recently, he lived 20 minutes' drive away, but he always had some excuse or another. Now he's moved 200 miles away, I doubt she'll see him very much at all. He also promised he'd phone at least four times a week, but he doesn't. When he talks to her, he doesn't even pretend to be interested in what she has to say. Poor thing, I feel so sad for her! She often says how much she loves and misses him. :(

I'm hoping over time that she'll just get used to him not being around and not think about it too much.

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #15 on: May 30, 2011, 09:29:02 AM »
Hiya

It will become the 'norm' in time for her to be living with just you.  I never say anything bad about their dad to them - when they ask why we dont all live together now I just say it was because we used to fight all the time and it was not a happy house.  We are a lot happier now - even thou it is hard work.

We split in Aug 2008 and I still have my bad/down days (did I do the right thing etc) but I know that deep down I did and we were just existing before and not living.

Andrea

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #16 on: May 31, 2011, 11:09:54 PM »
Yes, I'm really careful not to say anything negative about him in front of her. It wasn't my choice to split, but deep down, like you, I know that it was the right thing to do! Thanks again for the reassurance. :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #17 on: June 01, 2011, 11:07:02 PM »
Hi Becky

Andrea has started a thread re a play date at Tower Park, for 19th June.  Not sure if you are interested but if you could get to Poole I could give you a lift from there (or poss Andrea).   I know buses might be difficult on a Sunday.  And 1000 am on a Sunday might be difficult for me generally  ;D

Hope you can join us.

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #18 on: June 02, 2011, 10:13:33 AM »
Aw, thanks Karen! I'll have a look at the bus timetables, sounds good! :)

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #19 on: July 12, 2011, 10:02:38 PM »
I'm camping in Lulworth 6th - 12th aug and have two kids 4 and 2.
Anyone out and about for a meet up?  I can drive so a daytrip here and there is fine

Paula

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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #20 on: July 13, 2011, 07:46:13 PM »
Hi Paula
 
I am about that week - but working Monday to Friday so would be just the first weekend.
 
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Re: From Swanage
« Reply #21 on: July 18, 2011, 12:31:16 PM »
Hia I live near Bath, but would be great to do a day trip to Swanage and meet up with some other SWK's!  Feeling a bit glum at moment as been made redundant and my 4 year old is not seeing so much of her father!! 

 

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